I began a conversation the other day with some of my
associates. The topic … Partners who won’t choose to take a true
get-away vacation. Meaning, the mate
has asked the partner, over and over, that they might choose to for them to
get-away together, yet the partner refuses to budge.
I stated, that it was “Sad, partners won’t choose to leave
more than a couple of days for vacation.
They can’t
imagine the rejuvenation it could give to them ! The added romance, etc ! Not choosing to see the needs of a mate, can be perceived
as selfish.”.
Subject including reasons heard by mates, that their partner
gives in not wanting to get away.
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Animals
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Children
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Grandchildren
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Work, to include volunteer work
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Phobias
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Other
Our conversation also included, but not limited to, how we all
admit, we hate to leave our animals and families behind, when getting away. And how it’s true, work often gets
behind. (Please note, this topic is NOT against the
reasons; it’s about not choosing vacation at the request of a mate).
The conversation continued with it’s main purpose …. Special
time, designated with our mates are valuable to any relationship.
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Karen mentioned … “How some people in a
relationship don't understand how detrimental it is to their relationship to
ignore the needs of their partner, who wants to get away and reconnect with
them. If a person keeps ignoring the needs of his or her partner, it can create
a wedge in the relationship, the relationship may suffer and/or end because of
it”.
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Melissa stated … “Agree
that not being attentive to your partner's wants and needs could be perceived
as selfish!”.
Next Kimberly chimed in and shared with us, her own personal
honeymoon love story (testimony) … In reference to … “The wedge”.
“I totally agree with you on the importance of taking a
vacation helping with the health of a relationship! I wouldn't have known it
before my honeymoon (last month, my husband and i took a 3 week honeymoon going
to Universal Studios Orlando, WDW & a 7 day cruise).
Before we got married, we have been together for 11 years!
We hardly ever fight, we spend all of our time together and share the same
hobbies. We watch tv together, play games together, have a dog together! We
were always surrounded by friends and family (we are super family oriented). We
felt that our relationship was just great and there was no holes!
Then we took this 3 week honeymoon. 3 weeks of just me and
him. And you know what...we ended up filling a hole, we didn't even know we
had! A "wedge" like Karen had mentioned! This wedge/hole was created
by forgetting to specifically focus on our RELATIONSHIP because we got lost in
the day to day...in family and friends...in the daily grind of life. We didn't
realize that we lost WHO we are as a couple. So we spent 3 weeks spending time
together ALONE and that made us EVEN CLOSER!
We both couldn't believe it! We both didn't expect the change or the
difference. Now we're even more in
love and have an even stronger relationship!
So maybe, you can share the story
with your clients who don't realize the importance of taking time off with
their loved one! Maybe there is a hole/wedge there that they didn't even know
existed!
And let me tell you … I never gave vacationing too much
thought before I joined this company, to be honest with you. I always thought "Yeah, I would LOVE to
go to Hawaii or England or wherever! " but I always found plenty of
excuses as to why I couldn't go. "My business needs me." "My
family won't survive without me." (I don't have kids by the way. I just
take care of everything. LOL)
Then I joined this company
and my desire to vacation increased because I kept seeing all those great
deals/flyers/emails/etc with the gorgeous pictures! LOL I guess I got hit by a
travel bug.
So when the honeymoon came around, I thought "Well, if
I'm going to take the time off, I might as well make sure to do whatever it is
we really want to do". My husband and I are big Disney fans! It was part
of our bucket list to go to WDW. So we decided we would spend at least 8 days
there to make sure we got to experience it all!
Then I thought "Well if we're going to Orlando...how
can we NOT go to Universal Studios and see the Wizarding World of Harry
Potter?" So we added another 4 days for Universal. XD LOL Then I thought
"I'm a travel agent! I should go on a cruise too while I'm in
Florida!". I was going to book a 3 day cruise, but then decided on a 7 day
cruise.”
Hmm...my whole mentality was that if we were going to go away
for our honeymoon, we wanted to make sure it was memorable and get a lot of
rest/fun for ourselves! Plus I figure if I'm buying airfare, I might as well
get the most bang for my buck! LOL
It was one of the best decisions I ever made to take that
long honeymoon. 2 weeks would have been plenty by the way! By the 3rd week we
were missing home quite badly! LOL But basically, by taking a 3 week honeymoon we were able to
rejuvenate our relationship, fill that hole, experience tons of new things,
truly relax and start our new life together with a big bang!
Also it has helped my work ethic. I don't feel
all tired and think "ugh, another work day...." ! LOL That 3 week
honeymoon made me actually MISS work!
Crazy right?”.
Well, you’ve heard it
direct from a person who admits, she never knew the value of vacation, with a mate … What personal time with a mate can
bring to a relationship … Even when you didn’t know you needed it !
I’m in the business of cruises because of what vacation
taught me ! I believe vacation saved
me. I’m a work-a-holic. To help me, I need to get away about every
two months ! It not only rejuvenates me,
I come back with new ideas and goals !
If your partner won’t
get away, don’t give up ! They need this
vacation as much as you need it ! Whether it’s for the relationship or coming
back to a better work energy !
And if your boss won’t
take a vacation. Choose to tell that
boss out right … If they don’t want vacation for them, do it for everyone else
on the job ! (smile).
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